All in Dating

Episode 45: The Great British Blaise

An array of topics are covered this week when B+L are joined with special guest Blaise-B’s former neighbor in London (yes British accent included). They discuss what you learn from your first serious relationship (00:03:22), Wetherspoons date etiquette (00:17:48), internal payments systems when you’re in a Long Term Relationship (00:22:00), dating as someone whose mixed race, fetishization, the most recent season Love Island’s having the first person of color to win (and all the other racial issues with that show) (00:26:57), someone who went on three holidays with their boyfriend, what Blaise has learnt about traveling with a bae (00:39:24) and navigating your mental health issues in a relationship (00:42:53)

Blaise’s Twitter: @BlaiseInBeauty

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Episode 44: Back to School Special-Boyfriend Training

Welcome to B+L’s Short Course Seminar on Boyfriend Training! They start off the episode with some life updates then dive into what they think is “Boyfriend Material” (00:11:16) the class broken down into four periods:

Period 1: (00:23:10) Communication- breaking down different arguing styles in a fight

Period 2: (00:42:41) Domestic/Living Situation- expectations in a relationship when it comes to cooking, cleaning, and paying for groceries

Period 3: (00:54:35) Social Interactions- how your bf interacts with your friends and family, being present with the other person when you’re in a sticky social situation

Period 4: Sex Ed (00:01:02) B+L’s best of advice on learning how to navigate a new person’s body, when and where to bring our your kinks and how to be woke and clear about your sexual needs.

Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcast

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Website: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.com

Submissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Episode 42: Of Wedding Dates and Instathots with Lindsey from We Met At Acme

Host of the millennial dating podcast We Met At Acme, Lindsey Metselaar, joins B+L to talk about how to navigate wedding season, including when to give a plus one, going to wedding as a plus one with your S/O, and what happens when your boyfriend doesn’t want to come as your plus one. We also dive into if it’s ever okay for your boyfriend to follow instagram models, how many is too many, and if there is a situation where you should really bring it up. 

Lindsey Metselaar Instagram: @lindzmetz

We Met at Acme Instagram: @wemetatacme

Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcast

Twitter: @NotUrGFPodcast

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcast

Website: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.com

Submissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Episode 41: Baecation

We’re in peak summer time which means lots of opportunity to take a trip with your bae. This week we break down L’s recent trip with R to Italy and answer questions like when’s the best time to take your first Baecation, trial’ing a big trip with a weekender before, and what to do when you get annoyed with your bae. We also answer a listener a email about what to do when you’ve been dating someone for a few years in your twenties but start to lose interest.

Episode 38: Dating with Tom and Tucker of The Undesirables

In this week’s episode B+L are joined by fellow dating podcasters Tom and Tucker of the Undesirables Podcast. They break down their favorite dating apps (and Tom and Tucker’s trying out a recent fetish app), how women are feeling about receiving oral on a hookup, how NO MAN have ever said no to a blow job, how to approach someone IRL that you find cute (with TWO subway not-so-love-stories told) and much more.

Episode 34: Season 2 Finale & Euro Trip Sequel

B+L are back together to wrap up the season. We talk L’s next relationships stage and give an update. B is fresh off the boat from her Europe trips gives us the rundown on what happened (and who happened). The episode is filled with dicks that are too big, hot internet date hookups and European flings of the past.

Episode 32: So Your Long Term Partner Left

Our first recurring guest, Anonymous S from Episode 7: So You Think Your Junk Is Brilliant is back to give us a life update. We last left her in a steady long term relationship until recently when her long term partner ended things. We talk about how to process a breakup when you don’t get closure, entering the dating world at 27, and building trust with a next person you date.

Episode 31: Valentine's Day Dating

B+L are separated by an ocean but that doesn’t stop them from breaking down Valentine’s Day do and don’ts for those in a serious relationship to those in maybe want to get more serious. They also answer two listener questions and give some sage advice on dating older and what happens when you have emotional compatibility without sexual compatibility.

Episode 30: Dating Profile Tips from Bounce Co-Founders

B+L sit down with co-founders of new dating app in NYC called Bounce. They talk worse dates, rate B’s Bounce profile , and going on date with someone who doesn’t drink. We find out if all guys are really lying about their height, are selfies fair game for your profile and how important someone’s voice plays into their attractiveness.

Episode 29: When and How To DTR a New Relationship

Are you recently seeing someone and found yourself going on less first dates and more second, third and fourth dates? In this episode L discusses her latest bae and her and B give some advice on when to have the exclusive conversation, when to have the boyfriend/girlfriend conversation and why a lot of online dating romances end after the third/fourth date mark. We discuss a recent reddit thread on the subject and discuss what made our last online dating romances end and of course how to explore new bedroom stuff when you start sleeping exclusively with one person.

Episode 28: Are Love Potions Roofies? Potterless x NYGF with Mike Schubert

On this week’s episode B+L go full Harry Potter with Mike Schubert (@Schubes17) from the Potterless Podcast, where Mike as a 20-something millennial reads Harry Potter for the first time. We discuss our favorite Harry Potter pairings (and least favorite), wizard condoms, the ethics of love potions, and if Snape or Lupin more of a hipster. Potterless Podcast is available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, follow Mike’s journey on Potterless on Twitter (@PotterlessPod) and Instagram (PotterlessPodcast).

Episode 27: When Should I Tell Them I Go To Therapy? Collected Layers x NYGF

This week B+L are joined by John, 29 and Mike, 28 from Collected Layer Podcast (@jckfoundation). In addition to finding the last two good single guys in New York, they break down how and when you should bring up therapy/mental illness in dating, meeting people in real life tips, and the guys share their most interesting dating stories and preferences for the modern 20-something New York male.

Episode 25: The Fuck Boy Christmas Special

This week we break down the fuck boy-are they born or created? How to spot if the guy you’re dating is a fuck boy (or if you yourself have fuck boy tendencies), and how to treat a fuck boy if you find one in your life. B+L talk about posting on reddit, Big Mouth, and why and how people find themselves in relationships in this Christmas Special!